Archive for June, 2016

Junior Golf: Big Achievement Big Reward

In this Friday Flop Shot we will discuss how Mom and Dad should give recognition to your junior golfer when he reaches a goal or completes something very meaningful. This can range from making an adjustment to his putting stroke, to winning a tournament, getting a golf scholarship or in our case graduating from college in 4 years on a golf scholarship.image

Once S3, Linda and I acknowledged we were all on the same page regarding college golf and college graduation as the end goals, we proceeded full-speed ahead. As it became clear S3 would get his degree, we began planning his graduation gift/recognition. A nice golf and coast-oriented vacation with Mom and Dad was requested and I went to work. (photo offcoursegolf.com)

Since we love Florida, that became our focus. A search of golf resorts came up with several including the Hammock Beach Resort in Palm Coast. It didn’t take long to see that this was where we needed to spend some time. It was good geographically being close enough to the World Golf Hall of Fame so we could take a day trip and still come back to Hammock Beach and play an afternoon round. And it was a decent drive from Navarre Beach where we would spend time with our dear friends Shirley and Steve.

Our first stop after a 12-hour drive was Navarre Beach and S3 and I played Tiger Point Country Club the next day. Although the course was suffering from water issues, it was easy to see how this layout could be very tough with proper course conditions. So we worked out the kinks from the previous day’s drive and played call-shot golf. Great fun really when you want to do something different on a mostly vacant golf course.

Next morning we drove to Hammock Beach Resort for a 3pm tee time on the fabulous Ocean Course. The HB Resort courses are top-rated and both are stunningly beautiful and very hard. The Ocean Course has about 6 holes right on the Atlantic beach and there is water of some sort on nearly every hole. The 2nd course, The Conservatory, is regarded as Tom Watson’s masterpiece of golf design. It is Florida’s longest course at 7777 yards tipped out. As an inland venue, The Conservatory has a million sand traps, lots of undulations, some water and has every inch of grass in perfect shape. The are no proper words to describe the exhilaration you feel when you are playing this course! It’s a must play! Below, S3 is cutting the corner on this lengthy par 4 on the back 9 at The Conservatory.image

After our 4 days at HBR we headed back to spend Memorial Day weekend at the beach with Shirley and Steve before driving back to San Antonio. S3, Linda and I enjoyed a once-in-a-lifetime vacation and had so many extra-special moments. It was more than any of us had anticipated!

So parents, the point here is that your junior golfer will benefit from your acknowledgement/recognition of improvements to his game and goals he has achieved. Your response should be appropriate, in kind, to the level of your son’s achievement. Smaller for smaller and bigger for bigger.

See you on #1 tee ready to achieve something… Sam

Junior Golf: Recognition For Achievement

In today’s Wednesday Waggle we will take a look at how Dad and Mom should respond when your daughter has a good result from some of her efforts. Depending on her personality type the perfect parental response can vary, but all 4 personalities can be addressed in a similar manner. (photo golfdigest.com)img_0102-1

Please remember that Linda and I are not sports psychologists, we are parents relating our experiences with our son. Linda is certified as an Advanced Personalities Trainer and is a Board Certified Christian Life Coach. Basically our kids do not want to disappoint us so conversely when they accomplish a good goal, say a high placement in a tournament, we should dutifully give them positive recognition. If your daughter is of the peaceful personality she would prefer to be told in front of close family only, not really in front of a bunch of people. Now the popular girl would like these words announced to the world, she wants everybody to know she did well. A directive child may already have told you how well she performed, but you still need to tell her yourself. And the perfect personality, who may be wondering if you are capable of understanding what a great job she did, still needs to hear from you, but just a few words, as below. More specifics on the personalities in future posts.

Being recognized by someone meaningful, as in a parent, just really makes your child feel good. A great phrase would be: “Great job Ashley, all your hard work really paid off!” There are a lot of meaningful words in this short sentence. Think about it, your kiddo wants to know that you know they did a good job and you approve, that’s it.

imageSo our most recent and biggest achievement by S3 is of course, his timely 4-year college graduation May 20, 2016. This was the major goal of all those wonderful years of junior golf and he did it! So after he walked the stage, we said all these words and more, it was an amazing moment! For an effort of this magnitude, Linda and I wanted to offer a nice trip as a recognition and reward. We asked if he preferred going with a friend or being with the 2 of us. When he said, “Mom and Dad I want to spend some time with you.” Our hearts melted. We’ll have a look at this trip of trips in the next post.

See you on #1 tee looking to accomplish something… Sam

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