Junior Golf: Catch Her Doing This

In this Wednesday Waggle we will look at your daughter in perhaps a way that is different than normal, a bit more focused on your part, Mom and Dad. (Dufner photo golfdigest.com)

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If someone could watch your interaction with your daughter inside your home, what would be their 1st impression? Wow, what a warm, loving home. Ouch, I feel like I’m watching basic training or well, this looks pretty normal.

Everyone likes praise and your young golfer is no different. Ask yourself, as a parent, “When I address my children, am I sounding more positive, negative or neutral?” I can assure you that if you are constantly harping on your daughter, nobody wants to be around that environment, as in, around you. No one wants to go to or be in a place where they are constantly verbally attacked. If you are this parent, I encourage you to change, immediately! It’s never too late!

Here’s where to start. It’s simple, but not easy until you develop the habit after 21 days of consistency. Catch her doing something right. This would be her doing a helpful thing that was not totally just prompted by you or your spouse. These may be tiny moments or sizeable moments, take advantage of them to help affirm your child’s sense of value.

For example: “Thanks for helping put away the groceries!” “ Your room looks great, good job!” “You hit some excellent chip shots!” “That’s a nice looking outfit!” And a great line to use after a larger effort gets good results such as a high test score or a very competitive round of golf, courtesy of Dr Kevin Leman, author of Have A New Kid By Friday is “Great job, all your hard work really paid off!” A lot of meaningful words in that statement. (photo pga.com)

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Some more words that are important for your daughter and all of your family to hear are, “I love you.” In our parenting classes this past weekend, all 40 of our parents agreed that a parent can never tell a child, “I love you”, too much. Yep!

Be the positive parent! Look for things where you can through positive reinforcement improve your girl’s sense of self worth and her ability to accomplish things in a worthy manner. Ditch the negativity. Yes, it can be difficult particularly if you have been prone to a negative bent your whole life. You can do this! Remember, it’s never too late!

See you on #1 tee looking for you to do things right… Sam

 

 

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