Archive for March, 2017

Junior Golf: Parents Who Do This Will Advance Their Golfer’s Success

In this Monday Mulligan we will look at a major factor involved in advancing your junior golfer’s career. This should be the 1st step parents should take when considering the possibility of your daughter/son entering the wonderful world of junior golf. (image jennleforge.com)image

What Linda and I are offering here is being on the same page, being of like minds, being a unified team and working in tandem to achieve the desired goals.

3 Points To Keep In Mind:
Why both Mom and Dad need to be on the same page. Simply put, common strategies and goals keep your daughter on track and reduce or eliminate the chance for confusion. It enhances her ability to focus! Your girl will already have plenty on her mind and conflicting input from Dad and Mom is not helpful.
What happens when you are on the same page. Working together as the management team for your daughter produces a clear path for her junior golf career. Everyone knows what’s going on. Workouts, range time, putting and chipping drills, on-course/playing time and upcoming tournaments are all scheduled and everybody knows the who, what, when and where of all her commitments.
Why Dad and Mom must stay on the same page. Kids need structure. They actually like structure even though at times, they may complain about it. Once you establish an initial structure, stay with it. Your girl will like the security of knowing her complete junior golf schedule. The family can plan around the golf calendar. This planning can act as a baseline for the complete calendar of all family events. (image ottowa citizen)

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Here’s a real-life example of what happens when parents are not on the same page. This occurred a couple of years ago in 1 of our parenting classes and the topic was healthy eating. We were going over some basics like eating less processed foods and adding more fruits and veggies to the family’s meal plans. A young mom raised her hand and said, “My 7 year old son will not eat any green vegetables. What can I do?”

Linda then asked 1 of the great questions in the history of our parenting classes, “Does your husband eat green vegetables?”
Wow! The look on the young Mom’s face and the silence that briefly followed told the story. Finally she was able to say, “No, he won’t touch them.” The approach to address the issue as Linda immediately offered, was for the Mom and her husband to have a private conversation to see if they could get on the same page, a better page for their young son and family. Hubby, will you please make an effort to eat some green veggies, without whining and complaining and set a healthy example for your son? That’s how easy it is! Just ask your spouse for some help. Ask them to come alongside you.

Our kid’s brains are sponges they are soaking up everything we say and do. We are setting examples, good and not so good, every minute. Let’s leave a positive legacy for our junior golfers. Parents, have that meeting today and get on the same page. It works!

See you on #1 tee with like minds… Sam

Junior Golf: 2nd Must Have Piece Of Inexpensive Rain Gear

In this Friday Flop Shot we will continue our recommendations of inexpensive rain gear that is absolutely critical to your son’s/daughter’s ability to play, hopefully reasonably well, in wet weather. (image offcoursegolf.com)img_0106-1

The most important item was previously covered and that item is the wetter is better style of golf gloves made by several quality brands and pretty much available everywhere. As we mentioned, these gloves allow your youngster to have a good grip on the club in the rain. If a player is unable to hold onto the club, there is no way to play golf. The other rain gear you have, no matter the quality, is irrelevant if your son can’t hold onto the club.

The 2nd must have item is likely already in inventory and that would be an effective way to keep the rain out of your child’s eyes. We’re not talking about glasses here. In addition to the obvious need for clear vision/sight, your junior golfer, no golfer for that matter needs the challenge of trying to hit a shot, chip or putt while rain is hitting them squarely in the eyes.

So, the item is: a cap or hat that covers the head and has enough bill or rim to protect the eyes. Our family loves visors but in rain that is heavier than fog or mist, they allow too much moisture onto the hair and head and end up being more of a pain than an advantage. If your budget allows, you can get a waterproof and breatheable cap or hat. These can be comfortably worn in any weather, but really are helpful on a rainy day. The water sheds off them and since they’re not absorbing water, they don’t get soggy and heavy. They are genuinely a wonderful piece of equipment!
Expect to pay in the $25-$50 range for a waterproof cap or hat, sometimes called bucket hat.

While the breatheable/waterproof hats and caps are not as widely found as regular caps, many stores carry them, but you might have to ask for help finding them. Online sellers are numerous, so there’s not much effort involved in getting your hands on one. Please be certain to confirm your kiddo’s hat/cap size. Keep in mind that most caps have adjustable bands, but most hats are of a fixed size. Does your child wear a youth cap size? This is important to know if you are searching online.

Hats and caps are important items and should be worn pretty much all the time at the range and on the golf course. Just take a look at the PGA Tour, LPGA Tour, Web.Com Tour or European Tour. Count how many players are bare-headed. Did you need more than 1 hand? There are many very good reasons they are wearing hats, caps and visors.

See you on #1 tee with a good-looking cap on… Sam

Junior Golf: Parents-Choose Your Battles

In today’s Wednesday Waggle we will open up a can of parenting worms, 1 of the toughest parts of 1 of life’s toughest jobs, being a parent. (Dufner photo golfdigest.com)img_0102-1

So where am I going here? Well depending on your personality type would you be referred to as easy-going or kind of a stickler for details or even a pain? Your interactions with your son/daughter have a huge impact on the whole relationship. How is your junior golfer interpreting your words? Is what you say uplifting and encouraging or would it be degrading and negative? What you say and how you say it is important, but even more important is how your youngster is hearing and interpreting it.

Personally I grew up having the undesirable tendency towards being critical of nearly everything and exhibiting an attitude of a perfectionist. Some folks tolerate this behavior better than others and some close friends and family members may even call you out on it and offer to help. And a number of people just don’t want to be around it. This was magnified and brought to a head when Linda’s 2 children from her 1st marriage came on the scene. It took years, but finally I was able to moderate my pain in the rear attitude. It was tough, tough on me and on everyone around me, but I didn’t like how I was and I wanted to change.

As 1 of our favorite experts on teenagers, Mark Gregston, author of Tough Guys and Drama Queens says (paraphrasing), “ If the first thing your son hears as soon as he’s in your presence is a string of gripes about everything from his hair, clothes, room, grades and everything else, why would he ever want to be near you? Nobody wants to be around that!” (Mark Gregston images amazon.com and utube)

Parents, it’s important that you pick your battles! Don’t magnify minor issues out of proportion. Obviously things that are morally, ethically or legally wrong cannot be ignored, but don’t get caught up in every little detail of your boy’s/girl’s life that might annoy or embarrass you and make it a battle.

What’s a battle? As long as it doesn’t violate the school’s dress code, does a shirt, blouse, hair style or cut, or pair of shoes warrant a war? In our thoughts, no. Is cutting class or lying a battle, yep, sure is? You get my point.

Please be the Mom or Dad of encouraging words, more positive and less to zero negative. You can do it. Listen more, talk less. A good hug and “I love you”, are highly recommended! The time with our kids flys by. Before you know it they’re on their own. Make your time together the kind of time where your kids want to be with you and you want to be with them. Really, there’s nothing else like it!

See you on #1 tee wanting to be around each other… Sam

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