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Junior Golf: A Tough Question

As we look at today’s Wednesday Waggle we want to make certain everyone is on the same page to start the new year. One of the ways to do this is to ask questions and now we will tackle what should probably be the 1st question you ask your daughter.image

Sometimes we tend to take our kids for granted and that includes taking their responses for granted as well. What was the last time you were surprised, if not shocked by your daughter’s reply to a situation or question? (photo

As Your Golf Parent Coaches, we believe a basic foundation of your support and relationship to your daughter’s junior golf career is in understanding why she does what she does. And the 1st question you should ask is, “Why do you play golf?” Now this is a scary question for Dad and Mom because we think we already know the answer, but until your daughter gives her answer, we don’t really know. (photo

The answer we all would like to have is “Because I enjoy playing golf.” Now this has a number of variations like: enjoy being with friends, like being outdoors, like the competition, hope to get a college scholarship and more. Your daughter’s enjoyment of the game enables your family team to move forward with her plans for 2016.image

The other responses may require introspective family discussions before you begin pursuing the new year’s goals. So, what if the answer is: “Because Dad/Mom wants me to play golf.” Yes, this is very different than playing for the love of the game. Please remember the Linda and I are not psychologists or medical professionals. We are passing along what we have experienced during S3’s junior golf and college golf careers. I’ll address this 2nd response in a future post.

Today let’s focus on the fact that your daughter plays golf because she enjoys it. This frees your relationship to implement her goals and game plan for 2016. It’s time to be excited, a new beginning of sorts, a fresh start. Encourage a short memory. Wipe out the negative thoughts and bad shots and start focusing on improving her game. Replay the good, never the bad! Relax and enjoy the game!

See you on #1 tee… Because you love playing golf… Sam

Junior Golf: Be Yourself

imageIn today’s Monday Mulligan we will look at personalities, who our kids really are, how their disposition impacts their play. All of our junior golfers are different and “being yourself” is critical to good performance on the golf course

Great show on The Golf Channel’s Morning Drive show this morning! The cast was talking about LPGA superstar Suzann Pettersen and her attitude during Friday’s round at the LPGA Lorena Ochoa Tournament. The whole crew agreed the Suzann basically played the whole round with a scowl on her face and while she had no shows of temper, she just seemed to be in a foul mood and could not or chose not to shake it. And she shot 1-under par 71 to be in 6th place after 2 rounds. A pretty good spot to be in actually. So Suzann’s poor mood enabled the crew to take the conversation in a more positive direction. (photo

Morning Drive co-host Charlie Rymer referred to advice he was given during his professional playing days by famed sports psychologist, Dr. Bob Rotella who told Charlie: “be yourself. Charlie, you’re a talker, so talk while you’re playing.” So is your son a talker, the silent type or somewhere in between? If you have never thought about, then give yourself a moment to ponder this, but you already know.

Your son will play with every type of personality imaginable and more. Some are fun, some are pleasantly tolerable and some are jerks and the silent ones are not necessarily jerks, but maybe just the quiet type. Being yourself is important in life and important in golf. Watch your son in his next few tournament rounds and at some point things will become quite clear. What you are looking for is when does your son seem to be more relaxed and playing better? Is it when he is talking to 1 of his group when they are walking down the fairway or is it when he kind of stays by himself and doesn’t have much interaction with the other players? A trend will show itself and once you have identified his comfortable scenario, have a good discussion with him and encourage him to use his comfort zone while he is playing. It works!image

Our family is a family of talkers. I think we came right into the world talking, we didn’t wait until the normal talking age, we were all talking prodigies. That said, we, at least I don’t think we are just babbling machines, it’s just that we are communicators. It is inherent to our family. And it didn’t take long to see that S3 seemed to always be more relaxed if he could connect with someone in his group. Granted the 6 and 7 year-olds are not likely to be talking, but once your son gets into junior high the socializing will start to show up. And over time he will be paired more often than expected, with someone he already knows and can be comfortable with. The reality is that every round presents an opportunity for your son to learn to maintain his focus, not be distracted by his partner’s personality or lack of personality. Sometimes finding and maintaining his comfort zone is easier and sometimes it is difficult. It’s all part of golf. (photo by

See you on #1 tee and wait until after I hit to start talking… Sam

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