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Junior Golf: Your Junior Golfer Is Not Immune

In today’s Friday Flop Shot we will address the fact that your junior golfer is not immune to her environment, friends, family and life in general. There was a big shakeup at The Masters this week because no one is immune, no one is bulletproof.

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Things happen in life. They happen to all of us and your daughter is no exception. Good things, bad things, beneficial things, inconvenient things, there are a ton of things that can occur in one’s life.

Surely as Dustin Johnson was going down the wooden stairs in his stocking feet, it never crossed his mind that he might slip and fall and have to WD, withdraw, from the 1st men’s major of the year, The Masters. As you likely have heard, he did fall on his elbow and on the left side of his back. Yesterday just before his tee time, he decided he could not compete and withdrew. The physical pain is nothing compared to his mental anguish of the whole situation.

DJ, currently ranked men’s World #1, is generally regarded as being the most athletic guy on the PGA Tour and is in amazing shape, physically. So how does this happen to a DJ? Simply this walking down the stairs was such a nothing kind of everyday event that it seems DJ was on auto-pilot just going down a set of stairs. Boom, a slip and he’s out of the tournament. Wow!

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So what impact does this have on the field? Well, their 1st reaction was probably something like, “He’s in such great shape, how did that happen to him?” Next thought, “Now I have a better chance to win because I don’t have to beat the World#1.” And final dose of reality, “Man, I need to be careful. That can happen to anyone at any time.”

What is the lesson for your daughter and your household? Please make her aware that she is not immune to injury. Things happen around the house. She could slip on a wet sidewalk. Awareness helps. With S3 we also asked him to limit, as in not play at all, in pickup team sports games like basketball and soccer. All it takes is 1 injury to a finger, hand, wrist, knee, ankle or foot and the junior golf schedule is put on hold. Depending on the severity of the injury, your girl might never recover well enough to play competitive golf again.

True story. S3 was playing in a college golf tournament and 1 of his group members dads was at the event. As we dads visited during the round he told me how his son had won just about every event in their home state the previous year. His boy was on fire! However his son also dearly loved wakeboarding and refused to give it up. Yes, that’s right, the son had a horrific fall, injured his back and his golf game never recovered. So instead of winning golf tournaments, it was all he could do to break 80. A tough life lesson!

Your girl does need time away from golf. As much as she may love the game, both practicing and playing, she needs a break. Balance in life is important. As you are helping her just be a kid, encourage her in directions that give her an opportunity to have fun, fun with reduced risks.

See you on #1 tee injury-free… Sam

Junior Golf: This Cripples In Cool Weather

In today’s Friday Flop Shot we will take a look at 1 hidden hazard of playing golf in cool weather. This situation can show up with little or no warning and your daughter’s health and golf game will suffer.

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There are few things as pleasant as being on the golf course on a cool day. Temperatures in the 50’s warming into the 70’s make being outdoors feel like a million dollars. These pleasant temperatures are sneaky because in your enjoyment of the beautiful conditions you might tend to get out of your regular and hopefully, disciplined routine.

Living in South Texas we realize the effects of heat on an athlete and know what steps to take to keep our young golfers in proper condition to continue to play. Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate are some of the most important words you can ever say to your girl/boy. In fact the last few sentences we would say to S3 as he was preparing to tee off would be something like, “Drink plenty of water, play well, we love you!” And we emphasized the water whether it was 35-degrees or 105-degrees.

Dehydration is more common than you would think in cool or cold weather because your daughter thinks she’s OK since she doesn’t feel hot. The air temperature is so very comfortable. Her body is losing water in a number of ways, but again, she’s just not noticing. This is not helpful for playing competitive golf. And if there’s any wind, are you kidding it’s always windy on the golf course, it’s just a question of how windy, she will lose moisture even faster.

While there are a number of symptoms of dehydration, today we will mention the 3 that are most likely to impact your girl during a round of golf. Being thirsty, feeling weak or being confused can certainly appear in any type of weather, but it sneaks up on your youngster when it’s cool or cold.

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How many times did we see S3 give us the thumbs up when we knew he wasn’t drinking enough water. Well, you can’t coach your kiddo during a tournament, so it is imperative that you repeat 1 million times for her to drink water continuously during a round of golf. Say it all the time, not just during golf-oriented activities. Say it until you see her checking, on her own, that she has a full water bottle in her bag before the start of her round. Parents please stay after this until it sinks in!

Meltdowns over the last few holes of a tournament are caused by many things and 2 of them are mental confusion and physical weakness, neither of which may your girl be aware of because they have not progressed to an extreme state. Nevertheless, it happens, it’s real. Please encourage her to believe that these thing may well be happening even though she believes she is feeling just fine. Sneaky and crippling, that’s what dehydration is!

Make drinking enough water a family mission. Everyone will benefit!

See you on #1 tee with a bottle of water… Sam

Junior Golf: Tell Your Junior Golfer Why We MissThe King

In this Monday Mulligan we will look at why Arnold Palmer had such an amazing impact on everybody and everything he was involved with. Let’s remember The King!image

With the completion of Arnold’s own event, The Bay Hill Classic, we end a week of wonderful and interesting tributes to Arnie, who passed away last September. Many of us, myself included, just can’t get enough views of Arnold and stories about his exploits. It’s that magnetic personality, confident swagger, look of pure enjoyment and desperate desire to win that captivate us. And that doesn’t even include, in his own words, his most beloved activities of helping people. (image jennleforge.com)

When Arnie’s longtime personal assistant, Doc Giffin was asked, “Why is Arnold Palmer so popular?”, he replied, “The answer is simple. He likes people, and they know it. His public face and his private face are exactly the same. He’s not one of those guys who turns it on in public and turns it off in private. He’ll tolerate fools that most people, myself included, won’t. He just likes people.”

And Arnold loved helping people. He loved giving back and his 2 hospitals in Orlando are 1st-rate and cherished by the community. Many PGA and LPGA pros have had their children at the Winnie Palmer Hospital For Women And Babies and then their kids have been treated at the Arnold Palmer Hospital For Children. When Arnie 1st became involved with the hospital industry in Orlando, after touring some area hospitals, he said, “We can do better.” Under his tutelage these 2 are now world class facilities. This is the legacy of The King! (Photo Doc Giffin and Arnold Palmer)

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Why is this important to your junior golfer? The short answer is: It’s not about them. Life is about loving and helping others. Being about self, self-oriented or self-absorbed is a poor path. Being selfless is the proper direction.

Your child’s personality type plays a significant role in how he/she interacts with others. Every personality certainly can love people, it’s how they manifest their love that is different. Dad and Mom, ask yourself, how do I show my love for my spouse and my kids? Do they understand how much I love them? Is there something I need to do differently?

Countless studies show that people get a greater sense of satisfaction from helping others than from doing nearly any other activity. Now I’m not saying that your kiddo needs to give up golf and become a missionary. The point here is golf is a tough sport. Life is a hard track. Liking and loving others puts your young golfer in a position to succeed in life and in golf too. There’s an inner peace, happiness and overall satisfaction that comes with a sincere likeable personality. This means that your son or daughter will be in a position to make better grades, shoot lower scores and be an all-around more pleasant person to be around. It’s all good!

Talk this over with your spouse. Is your youngster someone who cares, genuinely for others? If you have a very young golfer it may be more difficult to understand how he/she is able to interact. By the time they hit 8, 9 or 10 years old you should begin to get a grasp of their ability to communicate with others. Do the other kids enjoy playing with him/her? Is he/she pleasant on the golf course?

Yes, every 1 of us is different, our children as well. The ability to love is in all of us. Sometimes it’s getting our love to the point where we can display it, again slightly differently, based on our own personality. Show a little love and see if you don’t get some in return!

Oh, we miss Arnold Palmer because he loved us and we knew it!

See you on #1 tee with love in your heart… Sam

Junior Golf: 3 Ways To Determine If You Are Going Overboard With All This Golf

In this Monday Mulligan we are going to help you find the answer to the question, “Are we going overboard with all this golf? Are we golf nuts or are we going golf nuts? Is this just crazy?” (image jennleforge.com)image

It’s a perfectly normal question really, for any family which has 1 or more children actively involved in extra-curricular activities. If your daughter’s purpose is to improve her skills and pursue a college golf scholarship, then there is considerable effort necessary for her to achieve the desired result.

How do you know if Mom and Dad and your young golfer are spending an inordinate amount of time on golf? This is different for each family. Golf is our family sport so scheduling time for all things golf-related was easy, normal and not really thought about twice in our routine. If your family is new to golf or has more than 1 kiddo doing after school activities, it may take a bit more structure for you to maintain a level of sanity in your home.

Here is a 3-step checklist to help keep things on track:
Does your daughter’s life have a balance to it? Is she spending proper amounts of time on her schoolwork, relationships, social and spiritual life, life outside of golf? Balance in life is very important. Your girl must be allowed to have and enjoy the life of a kiddo. All golf all the time is not healthy. Heck, even the pros need a break now and then!
Is her golf such a consuming part of the whole family calendar that someone, another child or Dad or Mom or even your daughter complaining about the time, effort and money involved in it? Family dynamics are tough enough on a day-to-day basis. Certainly any complaining needs to be intelligently addressed and worked through to a satisfactory outcome for all. Now if it’s your daughter complaining about too much golf, that’s another issue that needs to be addressed immediately!


Is the family budget being decimated by her golf expenses? It’s easy to spend a ton of money quickly supporting a junior golfer. New equipment, a state-of-the-art training aid, new quality golf shoes or entering several tournaments at the same time can all take a chunk out of the household bank account. Parents, you must stay on top of these expenses or risk being shocked at some point by how much money you have been spending on your daughter’s game. Having a golf budget and sticking to it is very helpful!

In the serious pursuit of any goal, much less a life goal like a college athletic scholarship, considerable persistence, commitment and effort is involved from everyone in the family. Parents must be the parents and your role, while different than the role of your girl is equally as important as hers. You must be on-board even more so than she is! Earth to parents, you are the parents, remember?

See you on #1 tee with everybody happy in their own role… Sam

Junior Golf: Parents Who Do This Will Advance Their Golfer’s Success

In this Monday Mulligan we will look at a major factor involved in advancing your junior golfer’s career. This should be the 1st step parents should take when considering the possibility of your daughter/son entering the wonderful world of junior golf. (image jennleforge.com)image

What Linda and I are offering here is being on the same page, being of like minds, being a unified team and working in tandem to achieve the desired goals.

3 Points To Keep In Mind:
Why both Mom and Dad need to be on the same page. Simply put, common strategies and goals keep your daughter on track and reduce or eliminate the chance for confusion. It enhances her ability to focus! Your girl will already have plenty on her mind and conflicting input from Dad and Mom is not helpful.
What happens when you are on the same page. Working together as the management team for your daughter produces a clear path for her junior golf career. Everyone knows what’s going on. Workouts, range time, putting and chipping drills, on-course/playing time and upcoming tournaments are all scheduled and everybody knows the who, what, when and where of all her commitments.
Why Dad and Mom must stay on the same page. Kids need structure. They actually like structure even though at times, they may complain about it. Once you establish an initial structure, stay with it. Your girl will like the security of knowing her complete junior golf schedule. The family can plan around the golf calendar. This planning can act as a baseline for the complete calendar of all family events. (image ottowa citizen)

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Here’s a real-life example of what happens when parents are not on the same page. This occurred a couple of years ago in 1 of our parenting classes and the topic was healthy eating. We were going over some basics like eating less processed foods and adding more fruits and veggies to the family’s meal plans. A young mom raised her hand and said, “My 7 year old son will not eat any green vegetables. What can I do?”

Linda then asked 1 of the great questions in the history of our parenting classes, “Does your husband eat green vegetables?”
Wow! The look on the young Mom’s face and the silence that briefly followed told the story. Finally she was able to say, “No, he won’t touch them.” The approach to address the issue as Linda immediately offered, was for the Mom and her husband to have a private conversation to see if they could get on the same page, a better page for their young son and family. Hubby, will you please make an effort to eat some green veggies, without whining and complaining and set a healthy example for your son? That’s how easy it is! Just ask your spouse for some help. Ask them to come alongside you.

Our kid’s brains are sponges they are soaking up everything we say and do. We are setting examples, good and not so good, every minute. Let’s leave a positive legacy for our junior golfers. Parents, have that meeting today and get on the same page. It works!

See you on #1 tee with like minds… Sam

Junior Golf: The Best Mindset For Playing In Front Of A Gallery

In today’s Friday Flop Shot we will take a peek into your daughter’s mind and offer a great way to deal with the mental pressure of playing in front of people, playing in front of a gallery. (image offcoursegolf.com)img_0106

When S3 was just starting to play golf, there was always 1 more parent who said they couldn’t watch their son play golf because it made him, the son, too nervous. We continued to run into this mindset even with some high school golfers and their parents.

What constitutes a gallery? To a 6 year old junior golfer it might be anybody. Perhaps parents, her own and those of the other players in her group. Friends, relatives or coaches all can make some golfers nervous.

Playing while people are watching is an issue that Linda and I addressed early on with S3. Being kind of the standard Goldfarb family ham, basically being comfortable performing in front of people, S3 never was overly concerned about people watching him play drums, sing or play golf. When the previously mentioned situation about parents watching their kids play was making their kids nervous came up, the 3 of us had a brief discussion.

Our concept that worked wonderfully for S3 and certainly 1 that you can try with your daughter is this: Daughter/Son, be excited that even 1 person has chosen to come out and watch you play golf. If there is more than 1, be it 10 or 100 or 1,000 be even more humbled and thrilled that all these people have taken time out of their very busy lives to come watch you. This is a positive thing! Take a deep breath and inhale all that positive energy. Be grateful and thankful and humbled by these situations. Embrace the moment. Then refocus and begin your normal routine. (image Aberdeen Asset Management Ladies Scottish Open)

Even the pros will tell you they have their moments of just a slight bit of nervousness. Many will admit to having some cases of nerves. Yes, even Jack Nicklaus has fessed up to having some jitters on the #1 tee at tournaments. The bigger the tournament, the bigger the jitters. For most of the professional men and women all they want to do on #1 tee is hit a decent shot and get on with their round.

See you on #1 tee excited that someone has come out to see you play golf… Sam

Junior Golf: Encourage Being Grateful

In today’s Monday Mulligan we will look at how important it is for parents to encourage their junior golfer to be grateful. There are considerable benefits for your son if he accepts this attitude. (image jennleforge.com)image

Grateful and thankful as well as gratefulness and thankfulness are almost identical in their definitions. Grateful: warmly or deeply appreciative of kindness or benefits received; thankful. Thankful: pleased and relieved; expressing gratitude and relief.

This past Friday a rare event, at least on the worldwide stage, happened here in Washington, DC, the peaceful transition of power. Every 4 years since George Washington left office for John Adams, this uniquely and consistently American event has taken place. It doesn’t matter who you voted for Mom and Dad, what’s important is that we should all be grateful/thankful to live in a country where 2 people with vastly differing views can hand off the power of the President from 1 to the other peacefully and civilly.

Today there are a couple of countries where a new leader has been elected but the previous ruler is refusing to leave office. Now there are threats of troops needing to oust the old to be able to being in the new. A civil war could follow as masses loyal to each person clash.

Then there are countries like Zimbabwe where the population desperately wants a change but the man in power refuses to leave. Corruption is rampant and the masses are restless. This is a tough place to be right now. One of S3’s college teammates is from this country so we are able to get accurate accounts of what’s going on. And there are a number of additional countries with a similar situation.

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So what does this mean for your son? It means he lives in one of those few countries where rule of law is still observed by most of the population. It means he doesn’t have to worry about a civil war breaking out while he’s in school or on the golf course. It means he can go about his daily business while being aware there are bad people, bad situations and poor choices in life but in the good ole USA there is so much to be thankful for!

New research is coming out that emphasizes that 1 of the keys to having a better quality life and a longer life is for individuals to have and exhibit a grateful/thankful attitude. Check out this article: How Gratitude Can Improve Your Health and Wellbeing.

Emphasize to your son how fortunate he is to be able to play the wonderful sport of golf and it is appropriate for him to be grateful for this opportunity because not everyone is in the same position he is in. Being grateful for the chance to play golf is, of course, only a small part of what should be an encompassing attitude of gratitude for everything in his life. Encourage gratitude and thankfulness in all things. He’ll catch on and be a better guy because of it.

See you on #1 tee looking grateful… Sam

Junior Golf: Being Aware On The Golf Course

In this Monday Mulligan we will help parents understand how to help you junior golfer be more aware while he’s on the golf course. (image jennleforge.com)image

Depending on your son’s age, skill level and personality type he may be more or less situationally aware than other kids his age. While a golf course is not thought of as a dangerous place, there are things your boy needs to pay attention to while he is playing golf. Part of this is regular Mom and Dad teaching your child basic safety and awareness guidelines.

We ask our children to look where they are walking, don’t talk to strangers, avoid hazardous areas and have their eyes wide open. Golf courses offer some unique challenges. If your son’s ball is in the fairway or light rough the ground is more than likely relatively even and smooth and the sprinkler heads are easily visible. When the ball heads for the boonies there are other things that come into play.

Real-life example. S3 was 10 or 12 years old playing in a tournament on a city course here in San Antonio. He hit his ball about 10 feet into the left rough which had not been properly mowed and it was very deep in spots. While he was looking for his ball he stepped into a sprinkler head depression which was totally hidden by the high grass. Fortunately all he got was a stinger which impacted him for a couple of shots and then he was OK. Scary stuff though because this is exactly how many ankle and knee injuries happen with all golfers. There was no way to see that sprinkler head.

Another example is when S3 was 5 or 6 years old there were times he was more interested in the butterflies and turtles than playing golf. That’s part of it with the very young ones. There were plenty of kids interested in the wildlife. And here in central Texas we have courses with herds of deer almost on every hole, and turkeys, and javelinas and feral hogs. Avoid the wildlife, leave it alone. Even a docile whitetail doe has a kick that can seriously injure an adult, much less a youngster. And the pig family can become aggressive quickly. Really, the deer are pretty much used to the humans and most of the other animals want to run from you, most of the time.

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A final thought. At the wonderful TPC San Antonio courses, the rough on both of them is penalizing. It is covered in about 85% what we call moon rocks, rocks that have sharp edges, range from small to huge and have very little dirt around them. It is difficult walking and really tough hitting a shot out of without hurting your wrist. Be aware, fairways are a great place to be. (image West Texas Golf Courses)

So Dad and Mom encourage your son to enjoy the nature he finds at the golf course, but to also keep his eyes open for possible dangers. Look where he’s putting his feet. Watch for wildlife. Here, it’s deer, snakes and wasp nests. In Florida, it’s alligators and snakes. In Colorado, it’s bears and mountain lions. What is it in your part of the country?

See you on #1 tee looking aware… Sam

Junior Golf: Happy New Year-Play More Golf

imageHi Folks! As we wrap up the Holiday Season Linda and I just wanted to use this Monday Mulligan to send you our best wishes for a very Happy New Year and encourage you, your junior golfer and all your family and friends to play more golf, do more “golf” activities in 2017. (image jennleforge.com)

 

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See you on #1 tee looking for what lies ahead in 2017… Sam

Junior Golf: Be In A Good Mood

In this Monday Mulligan we will emphasize the importance of being in a good mood especially this time of year.image

Emotions are readily transferred from 1 person to another. The easiest and most desirable emotion to radiate to your junior golfer is excitement or enthusiasm. Being positive, happy, joyful, grateful and thankful has tremendous benefits obviously to everyone close at hand but also to overall health and well-being. More and more research is confirming this. (image jennleforge.com)

From now until Christmas and also somewhat during the following week things can get a bit crazy. Your kids are out of school and are wanting to have a pleasant time over the long holiday. The horrific traffic, jammed mall parking lots, and loud shoppers in every store can sometimes make us parents want to tear our hair out! Please make every effort to remain calm and downplay and laugh off these stressful situations.

Our kids mirror us. We set the example, good or bad. Be aware. The more calm you exhibit in handling the Holiday insanity, the better example you are setting and the more likely it is that your youngster will start handling her own stress better. Their brains are sponges that are soaking up everything you do and say, please make your behavior something that you would be proud to have your daughter emulate!

This is a particular time to be joy-filled. For Christians and Jews there are powerful religious events to celebrate. For everyone else it is an opportunity to be in a good mood and show your family and close friends how much you love them.PJG logo

Whatever your reasons please resist the temptation to get flustered by all the rush of this time of year. You and everyone you come in touch with will be much happier if you will take a breath, smile and be joyful. Have a great time and help your daughter and all your family have a great time as well. It’s a special time!

See you on #1 tee looking happy to be there… Sam

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