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Junior Golf: 3 Tips For Lower Scores In Bad Weather

 

In this Wednesday Waggle we will offer 3 mental postures or tips for parents to share with your junior golfers. These will help your daughter/son have an opportunity to shoot lower scores in bad weather. (Dufner photo golfdigest.com)img_0102

Few if any golfers enjoy playing in terrible conditions. It is not fun, it takes every golfer out of their normal playing/pre-shot routine and it’s more challenging to shoot a decent score. There are players who find success in nasty weather. Let’s look at how they do it.

Last weekend during the PGA Genesis event at Riviera Country Club, former World #1 David Duval was asked, “How do you mentally prepare to play in this? The weather is terrible.” The host was referring to the rain and 25 mph winds battering the course and players. To paraphrase David’s response: “There are several things you need to do mentally. 1st, understand that everybody is playing in it, so it impacts the whole field. 2nd, there are players who really dislike these conditions and they are not going to play very well. 3rd, there are players who embrace these conditions and play better during bad weather than nearly everyone else. They gain strokes on the field. This weather is an excellent opportunity to move up in the standings for players who can take a breath and embrace tough playing conditions. In fact, there are some good scores out there right now.” Yes, there were some players shooting 3,4,5-under par in ugly weather.

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Hall of Fame member and 8 time major champion Tom Watson won the British Open, now The Open Championship, 5 times. After Arnold Palmer, Tom is probably the American golfer that is most loved by the British golf fans. When asked why Tom was so successful playing in the notorious and unpredictable British summer weather, 2 main reasons were offered. His ball flight was lower and thus less affected by the elements. And he was able to totally embrace the weather. It has often been said that when it was cold, windy and rainy, you couldn’t tell it by Tom Watson’s attitude. He looked like he was enjoying a sunny 75-degree day! There ya go! Attitude, attitude, attitude…positive attitude! (Tom Watson photo sporting news)

Golf is certainly a mental game and there is always another opportunity to test your daughter’s mental strengths. Ugly weather is one of those moments. She will play tournaments in cold, wet and windy conditions and these 3 tips can help her shoot a better score.

See you on #1 tee mentally ready… Sam

 

 

Junior Golf: Five Right Choices For Success

In this Friday Flop Shot we will learn 5 right choices that will put your son on the path to success. 1 of the basic tenets we encourage in our parenting classes is to set your child up for success. As the parent, this is up to you. (image offcoursegolf.com)img_0106-1

Attempting any endeavor without proper preparation, equipment and mental attitude will likely lead to a frustrating experience.As the parents and being the parents, Mom and Dad, it is fairly easy to set your son up to be successful in junior golf.

1. Choose proper equipment. His golf clubs must fit him for his size, strength and skill level. Ill-fitting clubs give your kiddo zero chance to develop a proper swing and have a good shot. It would be like sending him out bear hunting with a BB gun!
2. Choose proper golf shoes. The most important thing is that the shoes fit properly and are comfortable for walking. Buy golf shoes. While playing golf in tennis shoes is commonly seen in beginning junior golfers, it is not a preferred option in our opinion. Shoes made for golf will provide a stable platform for the swing motion-read lateral movement, soft spikes for traction, proper height above the ground for better balance and less risk of injury and some degree of water resistance/waterproofing. Buy the absolute best golf shoes you can afford. Golf shoes are 2nd only to golf clubs in importance.
3. Choose proper clothing. Abide by proper dress codes for golf etiquette. This shows an inherent respect for this wonderful game. Buy modern fabrics. The array of moisture-wicking shirts, pants, shorts and socks is amazing. Your son can stay cooler, warmer, and more dry than either of you ever thought possible. More freedom of movement too! Proper clothes really help!
4. Choose a proper pre-game atmosphere. Start the night before a tournament by setting a positive environment. Adrenaline can kick in early once your junior golfer realizes that his tournament starts tomorrow. He doesn’t need additional things to think about or worry about. Dad and Mom this isn’t rocket science. All you need to do is let him relax and perhaps play some video games with some friends. Or go to a movie. Take his mind off of golf. Then get a good night’s sleep, a solid breakfast, a relatively quiet drive to the course and then some encouraging words as he proceeds to check-in and warm-up. (image Lyman Orchards Golf)

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5. Choose to let your child choose golf. The previous 4 choices are your responsibility. Linda, my wife and coaching partner, has shared that the love of the game and the success that follows is your child’s. If his heart is not in the game, the best equipment and best environment won’t make him successful.

See you on #1 tee ready for success… Sam

Junior Golf: Catch Her Doing This

In this Wednesday Waggle we will look at your daughter in perhaps a way that is different than normal, a bit more focused on your part, Mom and Dad. (Dufner photo golfdigest.com)

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If someone could watch your interaction with your daughter inside your home, what would be their 1st impression? Wow, what a warm, loving home. Ouch, I feel like I’m watching basic training or well, this looks pretty normal.

Everyone likes praise and your young golfer is no different. Ask yourself, as a parent, “When I address my children, am I sounding more positive, negative or neutral?” I can assure you that if you are constantly harping on your daughter, nobody wants to be around that environment, as in, around you. No one wants to go to or be in a place where they are constantly verbally attacked. If you are this parent, I encourage you to change, immediately! It’s never too late!

Here’s where to start. It’s simple, but not easy until you develop the habit after 21 days of consistency. Catch her doing something right. This would be her doing a helpful thing that was not totally just prompted by you or your spouse. These may be tiny moments or sizeable moments, take advantage of them to help affirm your child’s sense of value.

For example: “Thanks for helping put away the groceries!” “ Your room looks great, good job!” “You hit some excellent chip shots!” “That’s a nice looking outfit!” And a great line to use after a larger effort gets good results such as a high test score or a very competitive round of golf, courtesy of Dr Kevin Leman, author of Have A New Kid By Friday is “Great job, all your hard work really paid off!” A lot of meaningful words in that statement. (photo pga.com)

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Some more words that are important for your daughter and all of your family to hear are, “I love you.” In our parenting classes this past weekend, all 40 of our parents agreed that a parent can never tell a child, “I love you”, too much. Yep!

Be the positive parent! Look for things where you can through positive reinforcement improve your girl’s sense of self worth and her ability to accomplish things in a worthy manner. Ditch the negativity. Yes, it can be difficult particularly if you have been prone to a negative bent your whole life. You can do this! Remember, it’s never too late!

See you on #1 tee looking for you to do things right… Sam

 

 

Junior Golf: Relive Some Good Memories

In today’s Wednesday Waggle we want to relive some of those good memories from your junior golfer’s 2016 experiences.img_0102

It’s a common thing. Businesses do it, newscasters do it, so why shouldn’t you and your daughter do it as well. The difference is that you and your girl want to focus on the positives, not the negatives as is common, particularly with the news. (Dufner photo golfdigest.com)

The brain is powerful and so are memories. As parents we want to encourage our kids to fill their sponge-like brains with as much positivity as possible. By reliving the good times we stimulate smiles, laughter, a sense of enjoyment and wanting to have more fun times in the future.

And those good times on the golf course imprint a feeling of achievement, a can do attitude. I’ve done it once and I can do it again. Success feeds off success!

So talk about that great shot she made! Or mention an amazing up-and-down she completed to save par! Or bring up that long snaking putt that went right into the center of the cup! Stay positive. Her brain needs to be filled with positive thoughts!image

And a quick reminder that some of the golf stores, both brick and mortar and online are having some ridiculous prices right now. Some are advertising various products for up to 75% off. I know we still need a couple of new golf bags. I’d better take a look!

See you on #1 tee thinking about those good shots… Sam

Junior Golf: Copy Phil’s Attitude

In this Friday Flop Shot we will look at how your son’s attitude impacts his score. There are numerous examples, both good and bad every weekend on the PGA and LPGA Tours. (photo offcoursegolf.com)img_0106

He’s not called today’s Arnold Palmer, for no reason. Phil Mickelson is likely the most beloved professional golfer playing currently. Why, you ask? Arnold Palmer, the King, brought athleticism, strength, energy, big smiles, an obvious love of the moment and a genuine love of the fans with him to every event. Oh and he brought great skill, too, attempting shots that others wouldn’t and often getting great results! And he was legendary for staying long after his rounds to sign every autograph. Arnold was once jokingly accused of carrying binoculars with him so he could see if anyone else wanted an autograph before he left. Great stuff, things that fans everywhere dearly love!

Now Phil is not Arnold Palmer, but he carries a bunch of Arnie’s qualities. Phil signs, smilingly, tons of autographs, he brings an exciting game, trying shots that others might not, and he certainly enjoys the fans. Also he has a consistently positive attitude. When you listen to the greats like Arnold, Jack Nicklaus and yes, Phil, you will notice that they always say positive things. Interviewers try to get them to say something negative and they just won’t do it! Part of this is their can do personality and part of it is their understanding how the brain works and they want only positive thoughts filling their minds.image

Parents please get this, eliminate the negative and fill your conversations and your kiddos mind with positive thoughts and words. Competitive sports is tough and staying positive is a major attribute and it takes practice. (photo golf.swingbyswing.com)

So yesterday Phil shot an 8-under par 63, to take the 1st round lead in The Open Championship. How did he do it, well his positive attitude about his game and his shot-making helped a ton, as did hitting 16 of 18 greens. Once negative thoughts show up, the game is lost. Let’s see how Phil does today.

See you on #1 tee with a positive attitude… Sam

Junior Golf: Seasons of Change

In this Wednesday Waggle, we’ll look at seasons of change. Your son will have a ton of changes happen to him throughout his life and some of the 1st and potentially most impactful will happen while he still is living at home.img_0102

Looking through his eyes, man are there a lot things happening and changing. Let’s examine some of the most dramatic/traumatic. Summer always is in itself a season of change. It marks the end of a school year and the coming of the next one. School seasons of change are basically of 2 categories, staying in the same school level and advancing to the next grade or finishing at 1 school level, say elementary school and advancing to the next school level, junior high or from junior high to high school or from high school to college. You see where we’re going here. (Dufner photo golfdigest.com)

Summer is when these transitions happen. Well, new friends, new and more difficult classes and new environments can, depending on your son’s personality type, impart stress. Parents, please remember there are 2 types of stress, the good stress-I’m excited about trying out for the school golf team and bad stress-What will happen if I try out for the school golf team and don’t make it? These thoughts and plenty more are going through your son’s mind over the summer.

How does this impact his golf? Again, depending on his personality type, he may relish all this change, work hard and be really ready for fall golf. Or he may be a bit intimidated by all this, still work hard on his summer golf, but need some time in the fall to settle into this new environment.

How can Dad and Mom help him adapt? Be realistic and positive. Explain that most of his new team members will be nice guys and some will become lifelong friends. Yes, some will play better, some will hit the ball farther and some will be really tough to beat. But you know what, they all want a teammate that can contribute! And tell him, “Son, that can be you.” (photo of S3 with a very tough 1st Place defeating a couple of future college golfers)image

Also be clear that team golf is different from individual golf in that he must earn a spot on the traveling team going to any given event. Rarely does any school, unless they are hosting their own tournament enter all their players. Golf is the ultimate performance-based sport, the better you play, the more opportunities you have. High school and college golf are very similar in this aspect: each school holds a qualifier for a specific event and the low 5 scores go and everybody else stays home.

Make an effort to understand what’s going through your junior golfer’s mind. Know that as much as he is loving his summer activities, he is also aware that they will come to an end, and in his opinion, perhaps way too soon. Parents, your input is vital to his good transition and success in the fall. Realistic and positive, great combination!

See you on #1 tee looking eager… Sam

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